Can A Vegan Live With a Non Vegan? The Ultimate Guide

Can A Vegan Live With a Non Vegan? The Ultimate Guide

Whether you transitioned to a vegan diet, whilst living with your partner or you’ve always been vegan, here’s my ultimate guide on how to live with a non vegan.

Personally, I transitioned to a vegan diet whilst living with my husband. This is probably the hardest adjustment as previously we used to eat and cook meat together. Now, I don’t cook any meat because it’s against what I believe in. Of course, the ultimate best scenario is that both you and your partner are vegan and you live happily ever after.

Whether you’re in the same situation as me or not, I’ve outlined all the scenarios below:

  • From day one you’ve been vegan since you’ve met your partner & you’re now moving in together.
  • Since moving in with your partner, you’ve transitioned to a vegan lifestyle.
  • You have transitioned to a vegan lifestyle since dating your partner, but you are now moving in together.
  • You’re both vegan, living together and cooking the best vegan dishes. You’re only here out of curiosity so carry on reading.

Communication Is Everything

Communication is incredibly important when you transition to a vegan diet. It’s so important that your other half understands why you have transitioned to a vegan diet. Everyone has their own reasons to transition to a vegan diet, whether that’s for animals, environment or your personal health. Make sure you discuss your reasons. As well as you speaking about your whys, your partner needs to be in the best situation to really take all the information in. Don’t try have this conversation, whilst you’re both in the middle of doing other tasks. Take that time to sit down, so they understand why exactly you’ve made this transition.

They may not agree with your view point, however as your partner they need to respect your viewpoint. I’m lucky, as my husband saw the good in me turning to a vegan diet. He does embrace it and I love him for that! It wasn’t ‘abnormal,’ to him as his sister has been a vegan for a number of years. Although he hasn’t converted, he completely understands why I made the transition.

You Need To Establish a System

What are you OK and not OK with? Do you mind meat being eaten in the house? Will your partner be willing to eat vegan meals? Will they expect you to cook their meat? Would you be OK with that if they do? Will they replace some simple substitutes like milk? Are they willing to give vegan food a try or are they adamant to stick to their meat?

You need to work out a system and what you are willing to do and not do. Again, going back to communication this needs to be communicated back to your partner so they understand.

Be Respectful of Each Other

Whether you were vegan before you were living together or you transitioned to a vegan diet, it’s so important to respect each other. Just because you’re not 100% aligned in the ways that you live, you chose to be with that person for a reason and don’t ever forget that. If you ever feel as if you’re being mocked for being vegan, talk about it as it’s the only way you’ll get through it together.

Will You Cook A Non Vegan Meal?

Personally, I haven’t cooked eggs or meat since I transitioned to a vegan diet as the concept feels like it’s against my ‘religion.’ I chose to transition to a vegan diet firstly for the animals and health, but also just as importantly the environment. For these reasons, how could I be fine with cooking meat and eggs? It’s entirely up to you what you decide in regards to cooking. If you are purely transitioning to a vegan diet for personal health reasons, then you may not have any issues cooking meat. It all goes back to the WHY.

Would You Share Cutlery and Utensils With Your Non Vegan Partner?

Me and my husband share everything in the kitchen including pots and pans, however I have spoken to other vegans which would not be OK with sharing. Personally, as long as it is 100% cleaned, I don’t mind sharing a pan that has previously had meat on it. If you want separate utensils, make sure that you can clearly establish which set is yours, like having a different colour or size.

Do You Need To Re-Organise The Kitchen?

Are you ok with sharing fridge and shelf space? Even if you are, it may be easier for you to have specific shelves in the fridge and cupboard space in the kitchen. How about keeping meat on a shelf at the top and keeping the rest open to vegetables and anything else you may have in your fridge. Any vegans worst nightmare is getting processed meats leaking on their vegetables, so even if you don’t mind sharing shelf space it would be worth separating vegan and non vegan items.

Surprise Them With a Vegan Meal

Sometimes, the easiest way to convert a non vegan is through their stomach. Have you tried cooking them your favourite vegan meal? Even if it doesn’t mean they convert, at least they can appreciate the great foods that vegans can and do eat. I truly believe that anything non vegans can do, vegans can do with a conscious mind! There are so many meat alternatives, so go start swapping out meat alternatives and see if they notice. Ok, that does sound like trickery and I’m not telling you to deceive your partner but it may be a fun little experiment! By your partner eating delicious vegan food, it may inspire them to incorporate more vegan items into their diet. If you need some help with vegan recipes, go buy this book below – It is honestly incredible!

How About Sharing Some Vegan Sides?

At dinner time, why don’t you make your vegan main whilst they make their meat main and share sides. Make all the sides vegan, which is super easy. You could share a large bowl of salad, even creamy mac and cheese or how about falafel? By incorporating vegan sides, into meal time it makes both your lives easier rather than both having to cooking separate sides.

How Do We Go About Food Shopping?

Do you buy your food together? Are you OK with your money going towards meat products? There is actually no right or wrong answer to how you go about this specific situation. Personally, I’m married and we buy our food from one bank account and it doesn’t bother me that some money goes towards meat. However, I can understand why it may upset some so you need to determine what you will and won’t accept. This could mean that you have separate budgets for food. Again, you need to work out a system that works for the both of you.

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How About Eating Out Together as a Vegan and Non Vegan Couple?

As a vegan and non-vegan couple, you can still enjoy going out to eat. Depending where you are in the World, most restaurants will have vegan options. It’s important to make sure that you check a menu before you do go out to eat, as it will give you a bit of stress relief before going. I do tend to call ahead of time, as sometimes a restaurant may not be very clear on their menu whether some items are actually vegan. A number of dishes can be made vegan, even if not specified on the menu. If you other half does want to go to a restaurant, where there are limited/no vegan options, sorry to say it but they may need to find another friend/family member to go with. Unless, of course you’re OK with watching them eat, which would never be me!

Don’t Pressure Them to Change

Pressuring someone to change, when they have no intention to will only frustrate you as well as them more than anything. I personally wouldn’t want anyone to think they can tell me what to eat, so why should I tell someone else what to eat? It’s important that they respect your view point, but demanding them to change is unfair as it is for them to demand you to eat meat again.

Time & Patience Is Key

Vegans I find are generally patient people, but it can be easy to get frustrated in specific situations. Having to explain yourself again and again is never fun. At the end of the day you will either be OK with living with a non vegan or you won’t. Adjustments will take time for the both of you and as long as your communicating, you will definitely get through this together.

I hope you liked this blog, this is one that is close to my heart being married to a non vegan. Let me know how you find living with a non vegan partner and any advice you can offer in the comments below.

Ami x

12 Best Vegan Hacks for All Vegans

12 Best Vegan Hacks for All Vegans

I thank all you vegans that have been vegan for years when it was a lot more difficult to find readily available substitutes. We have so much variety in supermarkets now (in the UK that is) that some may argue we don’t need vegan hacks anymore. On the flip side to that, there may be that time when you don’t have a substitute and that vegan brownie can’t wait. To counter that, what if you don’t want to use a supermarket substitute and can make do with what you have at home which has the potential to taste better and even cost less?

Whether you’re a beginner vegan or not, everyone needs vegan hacks up their sleeve and I have 12 for you all. They will change your life!

Vegan Hack 1 – Smoothies & Ice Cream

I always get to the end of the week with a couple of overly ripe bananas I don’t necessarily want to eat. So what do I do with them? I end up freezing and using them in smoothies. You can also blend these bananas and make a soft serve type of ice cream, add some cocao powder/ cocao nibs, peanut butter or even fruit. It’ll be one of the healthiest ice creams you’ll have!

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Vegan Hack 2 – No cheese at home? Nutritional Yeast is all you need!

Nutritional yeast is delicious and if you’re ever missing cheese it adds a cheesy flavour to sauces, pasta and soup. I made a delicious Mac and ‘cheese’ with the main ingredients being cashews and nutritional yeast! Nutritional yeast is also packed with protein, fibre and B vitamins!

Vegan Hack 3 – Super Quick Breakfast

Soak some oats overnight in dairy free milk for some overnight oats. I always add some chia seeds, flax seeds, frozen berries too!

Vegan Hack 4 – Needs eggs for a cake recipe?

In most recipes when they claim you require eggs, you don’t! There are so many egg replacements, my personal favourite is with chia or flax seeds. The rule of the thumb is one part seeds to 3 parts water. As an example – 1 tbsp of flax seeds with 3 tbsp of water. You should refrigerate it for best results and it should turn into an egg like texture which can be used in so many recipes that require eggs. Oil is another egg substitute and works pretty well and even soda water, yes I did say soda water!!!

Vegan Hack 5 – Needs butter for that brownie?

There are so many delicious vegan butter spreads but if you don’t have any at home do you have an avocado? Hear me out.. Anyone that follows me on Instagram knows that I am a sucker for avocado and have it almost every day but no I’m not crazy. It’s proven it works and if you want a healthier option in a dessert why not try it? Using avocado in desserts is also creamier than butter and no you will not taste avocado in your sweet dessert. I find it works best in chocolate puddings.

Vegan Hack 6 – What does Firm Tofu even mean in that Recipe?

Majority of recipes that include tofu require the tofu to be firm which always used to baffle me. Here’s how to make sure that your tofu is firm – When you open a packet of tofu, drain the water and place it on a plate with a paper towel underneath. Then place another paper towel over the tofu and then add a pot/pan or an anything heavy for at least 15 minutes.  There you have it, firm tofu!

Vegan Hack 7 – Favourite Sauces

I guess this isn’t so much a hack but you can get some delicious sauces that are vegan which can add an extra level of spice or flavour to your dish. My personal favourites are sriracha which I’ve used in a number of dishes when I’m making Chinese style dishes. I also love this garlic aioli  veganaise in wraps.

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Vegan Hack 8 – Heat your Milk

Do you find non dairy milk curdles in your hot drinks? Why not try heating the milk beforehand and it should help everything to mix together nice and smoothly.

Vegan Hack 9 – Silken Tofu

You can use silken tofu for SO many things! It is a magical ingredient that can be used for smoothies, mousses or even a creamy dip. Why not try make an instant dip with silken tofu and hebs?

Vegan Hack 10 – Chickpea tuna

Chickpeas are a staple in my diet and I have them almost every day! I generally have them in a chickpea curry but did you know you can make  ‘tuna’ from chickpeas for that perfect tuna sweetcorn sandwich or even on a jacket potato?

Vegan Hack 11 – Dates..and no not the Tinder type!

I have an obsession with dates.. Like an actual obsession. If I don’t have dates at home, I’m miserable! I don’t know whether that’s because I lived in Dubai for a while or just because they taste amazing and they’re full of natural sweetness. I generally have them at 3pm during my coffee break but they can also be used as a sweet base for lots of raw goodies such as energy balls, brownies and cheesecake.

Vegan Hack 12 – Apps

There are some apps that every vegan needs to have, but my top one is the Happy Cow App. It does cost £3.99 but in my eyes it is well worth the money. You can search by vegan, vegetarian and gluten-free cuisine types and more, near you or nearby an address. It’s great when you travel so you can enjoy the best dishes available in a new city.

In Summary, that’s my top 12 vegan hacks for all types of vegans and I hope this has helped you. I consider myself as a ‘newbie vegan’ and these hacks really helped me! I use the term ‘newbie vegan’ lightly as what is considered as an ‘oldie’ vegan? Who knows! If you need any help transitioning to a vegan diet I have a full guide which you should check out. Comment below and let me know whether these hacks helped and whether you have any more.

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Ami x